From Alex & Denise Lehr

Great marriages are designed, not drifted into.

We’re Alex and Denise — married forty-plus years, four kids, businesses built side by side. The habit behind all of it: we forecast our future together instead of waiting to see what happens. Bondfire is where we show you how.

Your email is all we need. First word on the book and the gatherings — no spam, ever.

You’re in. Now go find your spouse.

Tonight, ask them one question: “Ten years from now, what do you want an ordinary Tuesday to look like?” Just listen — and put what you hear in the woodpile.

The film

Pull up a chair.

Film — Alex & Denise, kitchen table, 90 seconds

We’re putting together a short film about the life we’ve built — the real story, kitchen table and all. It’ll live right here soon.

Photo — Alex & Denise, kitchen table, morning light
Photo — the whole family, backyard, dusk
Who we are

Practitioners, not therapists.

We’re Alex and Denise Lehr. We’re not counselors, and we won’t talk to you like a seminar. We’re a couple from the Bay Area who married young, built businesses side by side, raised four kids, and refused to let any of it run on autopilot. Alex still drives a truck and will show up with a shovel if you need one. Everything we’ll ever share through Bondfire has one test: we lived it first.

  • Married for more than forty years — and still each other’s first call
  • Four grown kids who love being together — all four work alongside us today
  • Multiple businesses built side by side, including Guide Real Estate in the Bay Area

“Denise built every one of those businesses with me. Usually while I was still looking for my keys.” — Alex

What’s coming

What we’re building

Two things, to start. Both are on the workbench right now.

The book

The full Bondfire blueprint — how we forecast our years instead of drifting through them, and how the family and the businesses got built on top of a marriage that works.

In the woodpile now.

The gatherings

Small, in-person rooms — real couples, honest conversation, and the actual Forecasting work done together. Less conference, more long dinner. A real fire, if we can manage it.

First gatherings later this year.

The book is being written now, and the first gatherings are planned for later this year. This list hears about everything first — that’s the whole deal.

Keep the fire burning

The next ten years are coming either way.

You can drift through them, or the two of you can design them on purpose. That’s the whole invitation. Leave your email and we’ll write to you as we build Bondfire — first word on the book, first seats at the gatherings, and the lessons we wish someone had handed us at year five. Better yet, sign up together.

An occasional letter from the two of us. No spam, no pressure, unsubscribe anytime.

You’re in. Now go find your spouse.

Tonight, ask them one question: “Ten years from now, what do you want an ordinary Tuesday to look like?” Don’t plan it. Don’t fix anything. Just listen — and put what you hear in the woodpile. You’ll want it later. That’s your first taste of Forecasting. We’ll be in touch soon with the rest. — Alex & Denise